“I cannot tell you the complete, fundamental shift that I have felt in the year since having surgery. I knew that I wanted top surgery for a decade; it’s the longest I’ve ever thought about doing anything. The place where I went, I had that clinic’s website open on my laptop for five years. It was this impossible mountain: I want that, but I’m never gonna get it. No one’s gonna let me, blah, blah, blah. To have that be in the past now… I stand differently, I walk differently, I carry myself differently. It feels different in my body than it ever has. I have just never been happier. I’ve never been more centered. I’ve never felt more stable and present and alive. It’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. It’s taught me a lot. The recovery process taught me about rest, accepting help, and caring for my body as something connected to me rather than separate from me, that I’m in opposition to: This is mine and I want to take care of it. I feel good in it and good about it. Part of cis people’s fear around gender-affirming surgery is the fear of surgery at all — ‘Oh, my God, but that’s painful and scary!’ My reaction to that is, 'No, no, you misunderstood. It was painful before. Your worry has kicked in at the wrong time. The right time to be concerned was about the pain I was in before this. I’m great now.’ Everybody else’s concern for me has been on a delay. There’s no need to be concerned anymore. That’s so freeing.”
I think some people are rightfully very upset that it’s harder for them to access the care that would let them live happily, but they then point that anger towards other trans people who happened to get lucky, rather than the people, organizations and institutions that made it so difficult in the first place.
It is not the fault of the pretty trans girl on twitter that HRT costs money in America, but it’s often easier to direct your feelings to the object of your envy than look for the real cause of the problem. I’m very familiar with that pitfall.
Idk
I think it’s an unnecessary and unhelpful distinction to make, when all trans people, regardless of passing, still largely experience the same bigotry and systemic oppression. Plenty of people who pass some days do not on others based on minor factors like a bad hair day, choice of clothes, not putting on makeup, or just running into different people. The amount of people that pass 100% of the time is so small that this distinction accomplishes nothing at all. It’s a distraction, one that does all harm and zero good. It only serves to create resentment for a perceived “upper class” of trans people that, in practice, does not functionally exist. Put solidarity first.
god I wish people would stop trying to figure out how to fracture the trans community and start figuring out how to make things better for all of us
yes some of us are further along or luckier with hormones/genetics than others
we’re still all being crushed under the boot of a transphobic society that wants us to stop existing
@lgbtqcreators creator meme: [5/8] lgbtq+ celebs “I had to free my own mind of what, at that time, what I felt like masculine adrogynous energy looks like. I was living in my own binary, and I was like there’s no way that I can be androgynous with bigger boobs now. How I feel inside is the thing that I needed to work through.” — JANELLEMONÁE
Remembering a conversation with my therapist where I was complaining that despite seeming to be healthier on paper, I’m constantly exhausted/injured these days, and you’d think things would get better.
My therapist very patiently pointed out, yes, I am injured more often these days. Or dealing with complications from my hEDS. But that’s because I was so sick I spent 5 years in bed. You can’t injure yourself if you’re too sick to move.
Like ah. Yes. Thank you for that reality check. Things aren’t worse. I’m just a chaos gremlin that’s been declared healthy enough to be turned loose.
At 1:20am on June 28th, 1969 in New York City, police enter the Stonewall Inn to arrest crossdressers. In response to mass arrests and unprovoked police brutality, the crowd responds with violence and the Stonewall Riots, lasting 6 days, begin.
I think the Evil Media Bias Against Platonic Relationships is one of those things tumblr loves to get worked up about despite, like. simply not being real.
“men in media are never allowed to have their closest, most meaningful relationship be a platonic friendship with another man!” I’m sorry but I am not convinced that you’ve ever consumed media
“okay maybe buddy comedies exist or whatever, but this is a problem in fandom spaces–” It’s not a “problem” that gay people on the internet like to draw gay kissing. Hope this helps <3
me, shaking the people in the notes by the shoulders: Fandom is an extremely niche subculture. Gay shipping is a niche of that niche. 99% of the population does not engage with it. You do not have to walk into the Gay Romance And Erotica Club and complain about the gay romance and erotica
the people in the notes: I’m being forced at gunpoint actually
1st July 2023
Reblogged From gingerhaze
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